"There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it."
"Ryan Gosling: Personally I feel like Blue Valentine is a hopeful movie because I think it addresses something that needs to be addressed. The only way to heal from something is to address it, acknowledge it, and then move forward. A lot of times when you get into a fight with whoever you’re with, it helps bring you closer. Michelle said something really interesting to me about being a mom… she was just saying that part of your life as a mother and as a parent is playing. You have to play, because if you don’t, the kid gets mean. It helped me to understand the movie, in a way, like maybe relationships are like that. You have to take them out in the backyard and run them around every day, and if you don’t, it’ll start to sour. I think what happens is these people take it for granted, and they go, ‘Okay, you love me, I love you, okay, great. Now we got that covered. We can go focus on our lives.’ And then this thing just starts to sour. Then because it came so naturally, it’s this thing that happened right at first sight and it was so easy, they want it to be effortless forever. I think that it takes work. My hope is that when people see the film… it starts a dialogue.
Interviewe: I don’t know, I don’t think they… do you think that they get back together?
Ryan Gosling: Yeah, I do. I really did. I just think that it’s two days of their life, you know? I mean, it’s a bad two days. And the film is focusing on those two days, but there’s so much, and it’s funny to me, they could have so much love in the past, and just… I just think there’s so much love there. They have a bad two days, and then everyone says it’s over, you know? I just think that’s the problem. We don’t look at how much they’ve built."
"If you have someone that you think is ‘the one,’ don’t just sort of think in your ordinary mind, ‘Okay, let’s pick a date. Let’s plan this and make a party and get married.’ Take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world, and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back and you’re still in love with that person, get married at the airport."
- Bill Murray crashes a bachelor party and lays down some truths.
And this is my boyfriend, giving a baby bird some water after it had fallen out of its nest and was abandoned by momma. (at Cabin in the Hoods)
I don’t want to look to you for strength. I want to turn to you for reinforcement.
"You don’t measure love in time. You measure love in transformation. Sometimes the longest connections yield very little growth, while the briefest of encounters change everything. The heart doesn’t wear a watch - it’s timeless. It doesn’t care how long you know someone. It doesn’t care if you had a 40 year anniversary if there is no juice in the connection. What the heart cares about is resonance. Resonance that opens it, resonance that enlivens it, resonance that calls it home. And when it finds it, the transformation begins…"
"Fall in love with someone who’s comfortable with your silence. Find someone who doesn’t need your words to know it’s time to kiss you."
"he’s not perfect;
but when we’re lying down
on our bed
and he fits my limbs
when he’s dragging his lips
on my neck
even in his sleep
i guess i’m allowed to boast
that he’s pretty